LET’S KICK SOME ASSES

Facebook can turn up many surprises as it happened with me. I was not willing to write such an article but then I read a question somewhere “What would you prefer: a lie that puts a smile on your face or a truth that makes you sob?” and yes it made me realise that I can’t be answering this in a laconic fashion so, I decided to write this. It is of course about friends.

After thinking about it I have arrived at the conclusion that finding the answer is not rocket science. Yeah, that qualifies me as a moron but that’s not the point is it. But it makes me wonder how deep rooted this question is and how it affects the ideology of us as a race. Seriously most of us would answer TRUTH. But we all know that many a times the truth hurts us and that’s what our friend does not want to happen. It is only in the long term we realise that may be if that day I would have told my friend the truth he would have been much better prepared for this unexpected failure. He would not be sitting here crestfallen and looking as if he would never recover from this failure.

Also, we all know that as youngsters we spend a lot of time with our friends. Some times more than what we spend with our parents and relatives. So how we are going to face the checkered life outside depends a lot on how our friends treat us. IN OTHER WORDS HOW THEY HAVE PREPARED US. Just take this example, there are two guys. Both are nothing but tyros in the field of war. Both of them join a school for learning the art. But their teacher falls ill and it is now just dependent upon their friends to teach them the tricks. One of them has the best warrior in his circles. Let’s call this guy X. The other guy Y has not so good warriors to his disposal. The friends of X love him. They don’t want him to get hurt. They never teach him with a metallic sword but a wooden one plus he is made to wear full protective gear. His peccadillos are ignored as well. Nothing as such happens in Y’s case. One fine day, both X and Y take the field against each other. Of course X is the front runner and he is showing it in the field. He looks to be miles ahead and it seems for him Y is just a push over. But suddenly Y hits back and guess what X can’t believe it. A SWORD HURTS. HE DID NOT KNOW THAT. And he loses his confidence right at that moment and it is just some pell-mell for him from that moment and eventually he loses it.

The point is of course caring for a friend is important but when the times come to choose between a truth that leads to tears and a lie that puts a smile on we have to make the right choice. Our love as a friend can’t lead to someone’s downfall even if it hurts us to hurt our friend at that moment. If we keep on trying to make him happy through our lies we will not be better than a coterie that tells him what he wants to hear. IF WE CARE FOR SOMEONE IF WE CALL SOMEONE OUR FRIEND WE HAVE TO KICK HIS ASS TO SAVE HER FROM GETTING HER KICKED IN THE OUTER WORLD.

More so there is a way to say things that don’t hurt people. I have a friend. He has an elder brother. When his brother used to point out her teacher’s mistake in the class he used to applauded by the teacher but when my friend used to do it he used to be chided.

Of course there has to be a tacit arrangement. We can’t tell somebody who is on a ventilator due to heart attack that your mate has just died, when you come out you will have enormous bills to pay, your daughter just ran away with your driver, your sister says she can’t live with her husband anymore etc. the person would die right at that moment only.
And it also depends upon the person you have befriended. Whether he wants to make your advice count or not? I had a friend, she was a bit fat (as I saw it at least). But every friend of her used to say “you are so sweet, you are that, you are awesome and blah blah blah….” When she asked me I just said what I thought. In reply she said that I am a preposterous writer. After several months when I saw her in the park she was looking great, a lot thinner and the all you want to think of. So, she took my advice seriously. Of course in the case of impervious person like I am I STILL DISH OUT SUCH INANE PIECES.

So, here we are. Go and call your best friend a nerd if he is one. Call him an asshole if he is one. Kick his ass if he deserves because in the long run we all want to see him living an honoured life. And you my dear friend if your true friend tells you something pay heed to it. Don’t ignore it. He may look like your enemy but in the long run somewhere deep down in your heart you would be thanking him.

PAN ME MY FRIEND IF YOU THINK THIS ARTICLE DESERVES IT AND CONGRATULATE ME IF YOU THINK I DESERVED TO BE. BUT BE MY TRUE FRIEND AND TELL ME THE TRUTH THROUGH YOUR COMMENTS.

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  1. sujatha sathya August 4, 2011

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